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By Love Reclaimed: Jean Harlow Returns to Clear Her Husband's Name
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IS STRESS A KILLER, OR A HEALER?...

IS STRESS A KILLER, OR A HEALER?…

 

A FRESH LOOK AT STRESS IN OUR SOCIETY...

Medicine is making progress…

Medications, surgery and other physical ministrations are advancing…

They certainly proved themselves scientifically to be mostly effective…

Correcting biochemical imbalances works well in general…

Drug combinations help, as well in most cases…

For instance, High Blood Pressure is most of the times kept under control with one, or a combination of drugs…

However, sudden, or rapidly building up STRESS, given to us by people, family, including a spouse, or others, as a warning sign, it overrides the medical treatment, thus, resulting in the blood pressure excessively shooting up, and this way, it could be a HEALER, or a KILLER...

In this example, it could be a warning sign-a HEALER, by finally determining us to make a drastic LIFE U-TURN of no return… In other words, realizing that loving a person, such as a spouse, is not enough to live with it… It may cost us our sanity, health and even life, turning into a KILLER, through a stroke, or a heart attack, because that spouse is that “toxic” to us…

The HEALER choice is simple: KEEP AWAY FROM THAT SPOUSE…

This truth is self-evident and well-known from folk wisdom’s expression: I love him/her, but I cannot live with him/her… IT KILLS ME…

A toxic person, is one that instead of lifting you up, puts you down, instead of being supportive is destructively critical, instead of finding common ground that unites, it looks for what separates between the two of you; instead of energizing you, it depletes and tires you; instead of nourishing you, it drains you; instead of being mostly positive, is generally negative; instead of having a healing effect on you, it has an ill one; instead of showing genuine acceptance of you, i.e., love, it constantly disapproves of you and most of what you do; and instead of respecting what you love to do the most, as your God-given life mission in The Master Plan, he/she is jealous at it, disrespects it and demeans it…

Such a relationship is clearly toxic, may render you sick,  and may even prove fatal…

As a physician, looking at the highest mortality in the western world, attributed to heart attacks and strokes, I can confirm that the above example stands up and is for real…

Through seeking professional help for as long as necessary, and both parties contributing by a give-and-take, on a 50/50 basis, in order to have their relationship work out, many are successful...

But, it is amazing how as many people choose to stay together, under the negative circumstances described before, until the "bitter end..."

Dear friends, it is our God-given free choice to free ourselves from the KILLER, and attach ourselves to the HEALER…

If people are the main factor making us sick and die, it is because we gave them permission… It is because we accepted and lived in relationships spanning sometimes for decades, have not made the fateful courageous decision to save our sanity, health, happiness, life mission and our very life…

AFTER FALTERING THIS WAY IN THIS LIFE AND OFTEN OVER MANY LIFETIMES, IT’S TIME TO WAKE UP! IT’S TIME TO HEAL…

In the The Book of Books one finds the essence of relationships: Love Thy Neighbor as Yourself… It implies two things: 1. A relationship should be 50/50, not 90/10 and 2. The first 50 is yours. But because we’re all one through God, we should not be selfish, and give the other 50 to the other…

A 90/10 relationship is an addictive one, with maximum attachment and minimum or maximum involvement (common interests.)

A 50/50 relationship is a workable, non-addictive one, with minimum attachment and maximum involvement…

Hillel, a wise philosopher, in the 1st century A.D. said:

If I’m not for myself, who is? And if I’m only for myself, who am I? And if not now when?

MY DEAR FRIENDS,

LOVE AND FREEDOM, AND MAY THE HEALER BE WITH YOU,

Adrian